- “God cannot use me. My life is a mess.”
- “God cannot use me. I am not good enough.”
- “God cannot use me. I am not strong enough.”
- “God cannot use me. I have been sexually assaulted.”
- “God cannot use me. I have been sex trafficked.”
- “God cannot use me. I am a victim of incest.”
- “God cannot use me. I drink alcohol.”
- “God cannot use me. I don’t go to church.”
- “God cannot use me. My faith is too small.”
- “God cannot use me. I suffer from mental illness.”
- “God cannot use me. I am depressed.”
- “God cannot use me. I have a chemical imbalance and have to take meds.”
- “God cannot use me. I am too sinful.”
- “God cannot use me. I suffer from panic attacks.”
- “God cannot use me because. . . (You fill in the excuse.)
There are multitudes of people who believe they cannot be used of God because of their failures, shortcomings, sins, abuses, etc. What’s worse is that many even believe God is angry at them because of these things and his wrath abides on them. May I say that God does not react to us the same way we react to each other?
From early on in one’s Christian development, church leaders instill in us that we need to live holy and separate from the world. They also place an unreasonable expectation on one’s own personal faith and standards. We are expected to have a very strong trust and faith in God no matter what happens to us or our families. If we waiver the slightest bit in that faith, then we are told we are sinning against God and he is angry with us. This is a LIE. May I remind everyone that Jesus did not tell Peter he was sinning when his faith waned and he began to sink into the water. He reached out to him instead and showed Peter love and compassion by pulling him back up. God will reach out to us too, in our time of need – when our faith is small. He won’t condemn or punish us. Wavering or small faith is not a sin! It opens the door for God to show how great and wonderful he is. Weaknesses are not sin, they are avenues for God to show himself mighty in our lives.
The religious tell us those who suffer from emotional and mental disorders lack faith in God; they are told they are sinning against God. This is a LIE. It is one of the most damaging lies that can be told to someone suffering in this way. We must remember that God made the blind man blind so that his power could be manifested. Religion told him he was born blind because of sin. It was not the blind man’s faith that healed him. It had nothing to do with his faith or lack thereof. He was not blind because of sin. The blind man was born blind to manifest God’s power. We must understand that God doesn’t rain judgment and wrath down upon the weak, weary, down-trodden, and broken. He extends love, compassion and grace. Don’t listen to religious leaders who tell you otherwise. If you suffer from emotional and mental disorders, it is an avenue for God to show himself in your life. It is not sin and God is not angry with you.
Because we fall short of religion’s standards, we are ridiculed, chastised, and looked down upon by those who believe their faith is stronger than ours. These holier-than-thou, self righteous people do everything in their power to instill guilt in us for not adhering to their set of rules and standards. Sadly, we are judged by our weaknesses instead of succored and extended love and grace to help us grow in spite of our weaknesses. Genuine Christian love is more interested in helping us GROW and MATURE than interested in forcing us to conform to religious rules and conditions. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is Long-suffering and gentle. Love is interested in benefiting others, not self. Love does not label, attack, slander, call names, or abuse, to force conformity. Genuine love, when extended to us, wants to encourage us, lift us up, gently teach us, and coax us along in order for that growth and maturity to happen. Love will not give us an ultimatum – do as I say or God will punish you and we will too!
If we do not follow religion’s rules, dogmas and precepts during that growth:
- We are shunned.
- We are labeled (backsliders, rebellious, bad influences, worldly, haters, unsaved, and on and on. The labels placed on those who do not conform to religion’s rules are too numerous to list.)
- We are told we are going to hell.
- We are gossiped about.
- We are harassed.
- We are slandered.
- We are guilted.
- We are called names.
- We are physically harmed (women and children)
- We are the recipient of destructive mind games.
- This list can go on and on.
Religion says to us that in order for God to truly use us in doing great things we must:
- “Separate ourselves from the world.”
- “We must not drink, smoke, or dance.”
- “We cannot cuss.”
- “We cannot wear certain clothing styles.”
- “We must memorize scripture.”
- “We must be chaste, monogamous, or celibate.”
- “We cannot be divorced.”
- “We must attend every church function.”
- “We must serve in a ministry of the church.”
- “We must give our life to God in service to the church.”
- “We must give our money to God through the church.”
- “We must go out and ‘win’ souls to Christ as a member of a church.”
- “If we can’t win them, cut them off, or destroy them,”
The reality is this: It is through our weaknesses God can show his power; through our imperfections God can be glorified. Through our sin, God can show us He is God. God uses flawed people to bring his purposes to fruition. Don’t believe the lies you are told. We all can be used of God – saved and unsaved. For whatever reason, the religious do not believe this. They are looking at outward appearances (works), but God is looking at your heart and motives. Your character, motives, and how you treat others are more important to God than works of righteousness done for him.
When we admit to being weak, flawed and insufficient, it enables us to fully understand that it is not about US, it is all about God working through us to do great things. No matter our situation, no matter our religious affiliation, no matter our abuses suffered, it is all about God and what he can do through us. It is not about the church. It is not about Christianity. It is not about denomination. When we treat others with the same compassion, acceptance, grace and love God has extended to us, we are being used whether we realize it or not; whether we have faith or not.
God accepts us where we are and works from there to help us grow toward Him. He is very long-suffering and patient toward us during the process. God extends to us his loving hand to guide us no matter how long the process takes. You see, God knows we will mess up. God knows we will make mistakes that will get us off track. But he is ever faithful to gently lead us along until we get back on track, mature, and become like Him – loving, kind, caring, patient, long-suffering, humble and gentle. This is true maturity.
Religious leaders expect us to change immediately and PROVE ourselves to THEM in order to receive their hand of blessing — God doesn’t. We do not have to prove anything to the religious crowd. There are countless multitudes who love their religion and church leaders above God. They want the church’s hand of blessing instead of God’s. As a result, they will follow the church’s rules and commands even if it means shunning, slandering, and spreading hate.
God loves us unconditionally. Let’s all remember that. There is not one single sin we can commit that will separate us from the love of God or his mercy. Every sin ever committed has been paid for. Our sins are remembered no more and God views us through the shed blood of Christ. Our goal in this life, according to God, is to walk humbly, to do justly, and extend to others the same things God has extended to us. In doing so, everyone can be used no matter their situation. We don’t need religiosity for God to use us. All we need is some good old fashioned character – loving-kindness, honesty, ethics, gentleness, humbleness and patience. When we extend these things unconditionally to others, we are mirroring God and God is pleased. By the way, you don’t have to be a ‘Christian’ to mirror God in this way. Anyone can do these things.